Written by Courtney O'Connor
Wife to Mike O'Connor

My name is Courtney O’Connor, and I am both a career woman and a baseball wife. With that being said, I have never been a full-time baseball wife and traveled with my husband. I struggle with this weird dichotomy every day.

I visit my husband every few weeks, and I rarely fit in with the other baseball wives. I can’t completely relate because I have never been a full-time baseball wife. At the same time, the full-time baseball wives can’t completely relate to me either. Sometimes I am questioned as to why I work or why I don’t support my husband full-time, and I tend to get defensive because I take pride in the sacrifices I’ve made to be both a baseball wife and a career woman. I want it all.

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Written by Shelly Ruggiano
Wife to Justin Ruggiano

We leave for spring training in the middle of every February. The season starts in April. Then depending on where you play and if you are in the playoffs, the season could last through September and sometimes October. Then, you get a nice off season that always goes way too fast.

Well, sometimes you get an off season. A lot of minor league players don't. They pack up and play winter ball either in Mexico or somewhere in South America. It's a great gig. My husband loves baseball, he absolutely loves playing the game. So for us, it was the best way to make money in the off season. He played in Venezuela, which was just not safe enough for me to fly there with our son to visit. So we stayed back and missed Justin like crazy for six long weeks.

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Written by Katelyn Davis
Wife to Wade Davis

My husband Wade and I met when we were very young. I was 17 and he was 19. I was a junior in high school and spent most of my time playing softball either at school or around the country. My father was a manager of one of the teams I was on, and made SURE that wherever we went we had a bus, because his little blonde brat of a daughter (me) was afraid of flying. We went as far as Texas for some tournaments! I didn't care about how long it took, and after a while my teammates didn't either. Besides, it was a nice bus, there was no way I was going to fly anywhere until I was old enough to be heavily sedated or better yet..hammered, ha!

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Written by Nicole Houser
Wife to James Houser

My husband James and I welcomed our first baby boy, Kellen James Houser, into the world with a few weeks left in the off season.  He got to be there for the birth and little while longer to help out and spend time with Kellen.

I had no idea how much work went into raising a baby and even with my husband's help we were barely getting any sleep! It seemed like there was no time in the day left for anything else. I remember thinking how am I ever going to do this alone? I was dreading the day he would leave me for spring training. It was just too much money to go with him this year and I would have to stay home by myself with a new baby.

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Written by Kelli Ridgway
Wife to Jeffrey Ridgway

Jeffrey and I met in 2001 while he was playing for the Charleston River Dogs.  I never imagined that we would be where we are today, married with three kids.  I grew up in a baseball family, so I had an idea of the crazy lifestyle that they had.  I knew that the team would go on the road a lot and that he didn't have "normal" hours at the office.  When you actually marry to ball player, it ends up being a whole new ball game!  There were NO instructions when we got married on how to handle the craziness.  You learn very quickly that you have to do what works best for you; more so when you have kids.

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Written by Nicole Johnson
Editor at The Life of the Baseball Wife
Follow on twitter @baseballwife

I thought I had it all figured out.  Traveling with one child had become a piece of cake after two big league seasons in the books.

We waited until we knew I could handle traveling with two kids before we considered attempting to add to our family.  We wanted our oldest, Blake, to be completely capable of handling traveling with me and a new baby.  4 years age difference seemed perfect.

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Written by Nicole Johnson
Editor at The Life of the Baseball Wife
Follow on twitter @baseballwife

Elliot didn't make the All-Star team in 2009. We did take a trip over the break, though, to see some family while we had a few days off, and so that my family could throw me a baby shower at a time that they absolutely knew I could be there.

In baseball, nothing is ever certain, not even the dates that your husband might have off from work, or the places he might be playing in. In a matter of minutes, your world can be turned upside down when he is called up, sent down, or traded.

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Written by Danielle Lutz
Wife to Derrik Lutz

The summer of ’05 I took a vacation up to Cape Cod with my family like I had every summer for as long as I could remember. I had gone to the Chatham A’s baseball games since I was a little girl and always loved to play on the playground, eat candy, and maybe watch a little baseball. This summer though it was a little different. The game became a little more interesting because the boys were suddenly my age. My little sisters, who kept going over to the bull pen for autographs, suddenly walked back to us with part of a Cheez-It box in their hands. On it there was a note: Dear Blonde Girl – What’s your age and status? I was beyond excited and quickly filled out: 20 and Single!

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Written by Marissa Kloess
Wife to Brandon Kloess
Follow Marissa on Twitter @marissakloess

Before Brandon and I were together I knew an average amount about baseball. I knew the basics; three strikes you’re out, four balls you walk and nine innings in a game. Brandon and his friends still joke about the time they told me that the shortest player on the team had to play short stop and I believed them!

Well, when we first started dating I slowly learned more and more about the game. I now know the shortest player does not have to play short stop! I also started learning about the rules of the game that happen off the field as well.

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