Wife to Butch Hobson
We are baseball wives. Some of us have money and nannies and some of us do not. Some of us move from place to place with our husbands, some of us do not. There are vast differences between us and how we choose to live this very unusual and sometimes challenging life.
Let me tell you about the similarities. We are independent. You can not exist in this form without knowing who you are and what you are made of. We are strong, in mind, body and spirit. Our sense of self has got to be second to none and most of us have some form of belief system in place because we know that we cannot live with out it. We are women, hear us roar! I hope you laughed at that.
I am proud to be a baseball wife. I have been in this game for about 22 years now and don’t really see an end in sight. Minor leagues, major leagues, independent leagues, small towns and big cities, I have lived everywhere. For some of us this is a life long gig for others a few years in and then a very different life is waiting. When you have been around as long as I have, you get to see and hear it all. I have personally experienced most of it.
We can’t deny that many perks come with being a baseball wife, I am a managers wife, so my interpretation will be a little different but the experience is quite the same. I won’t go over them because at any level of ball there are opportunities and we all have shared in them.
People see us and judge immediately without knowing anything about us, we, unfortunately even judge one another and that my friends has to stop, we are after all in this together and as wonderful as it is, no one gets out without a few bumps and bruises.
I am one of those women. I have been through it all. We have walked through drug addiction, he as been clean 15 years now. Lost jobs, lost houses, infidelity and a bunch of stuff in between. Meanwhile I was raising children, we have 4, and being step mother to his three kids.
Your mouths are open, go ahead and say it out loud, “Is she nuts?” I have been told that I am a little crazy. I just always saw the bigger picture, the one that included, not just us but all of our children. I can go on about the deep reasons that I stayed but that is for another time, one thing was for sure I love my husband and to me, the whole was always bigger than the part.
I have always believed that anything can be overcome. That belief was deeply tested with the infidelity but this too worked for our good and the good of our family. As the Bible says, and I am paraphrasing here, what Satan means for evil I shall turn for your good and My glory, big paraphrase there girls.
My longevity has given me a perspective that only comes with time and age. I hope that I can share it with you as time passes. I am willing to be open about my journey in baseball, good and bad and how I navigated the terrain.
It takes a particular kind of woman and you are she, treat each other with respect and dignity. Remember that no one has a perfect life, we need each other, sometimes we are all we have.
Until next time,