Written by Toni-Marie Olivas
Wife to Carlos Olivas

Our first summer dating Carlos was an intern for the Albuquerque Dukes (Dodgers AAA). I’d go to an occasional game with a friend, dance along to YMCA, do the wave, have some ballpark food and go home. It was fun, but I didn’t think it would become our life.

You see, when Carlos and I began dating his dream was to work in the NBA. I was oK with that I guess.  As long as it wasn’t with the Chicago Bulls, it’s too cold there. I didn’t really understand what that meant for our life but it was still early in our relationship.

Our relationship was your regular college relationship. We went to class, met up for lunch when we could, visited in the training room when we had a chance, I worked and we both had clinical hours to put in. We went on dates when we had free evenings and talked on the phone.

As I entered my third semester of the program I began to realize that this wasn’t what I wanted to do with my life. How can I have children and raise a family if I was at work until 7:00 at night? It was just too time consuming. I decided that this was my last semester in the program. I decided that I was going to become a teacher. After all, it was what I’ve always wanted to do. And teaching isn’t time consuming at all.

During that same semester (spring 2000) Carlos was accepted as an intern with the Atlanta Braves in Kissimmee, Florida. I wasn’t thrilled at the thought of him being gone for 6 weeks but it would be a great experience for him. It was a tough separation but school kept me busy and I used it as an excuse to take a trip for spring break. Three friends and I decided to go to Florida for spring break. We spent a few days in Daytona and then a few days in Kissimmee. Carlos and I didn’t have a lot of time together. It was spring training. But it was so wonderful to smell him (I’m a smeller) and hug him and kiss him! But I still never thought it would become our life.

Carlos started liking baseball a lot more. He had another internship with the Tampa Bay Devil Rays in the fall of 2000. He was gone again for another 6 weeks. It was rough but it was another great experience for him. Especially since he was interested in working in baseball now. I couldn’t visit him this time. It made the separation hard. We got through it. And when he returned he was almost ready to graduate.

Carlos graduated in December 2000 and got a job offer from the Los Angeles Dodgers to be a minor league trainer of a short season team. He accepted it and was now all grown-up and working for the Los Angeles Dodgers! Wow, it was so cool. His check was from the LOS ANGELES DODGERS!

He left that spring and it was different. I cried, and cried, and cried the day he left. It was the worst feeling. I had his comforter and smelled it each time I missed him and then put it away. I was so sad the day I pulled it out and couldn’t smell his smell anymore. I didn’t visit him that spring training. I felt it was best if he focused his attention on his new job. I stayed back home but we did plan on me visiting during extended.

When we began dating I knew what I was getting into as far as the time commitment involved. I knew he would be working long hours he probably would work on the weekends and holidays. What I didn’t know, was that this also included Carlos being away from me for 6 months too.

I never thought this would be our life.



  1. I know how you feel. My husband and I started dating in March 2004. He got a job with the Texas Rangers Organization in 2005 to be a trainer. We have been doing this baseball life for 4 years that we have been married. Me and my two little ones are able to travel with him during the season. You will get trough it and it wont be as hard as the time goes on.

  2. Thanks for sharing ladies! My hubby is one of the athletic trainers for the Washington Nationals and is in his fifth year in the major leagues. I'm one of his biggest supporters and am so proud of him every day! However, it's probably one of the toughest situations I've ever dealt with in my life! We live in Florida, we have three children, I've just started my eleventh year of teaching elementary school, and he is gone six month out of each year!!!! I'm pulling all the weight at home as well as working full time. Sometimes I'm just exhausted! I try to focus on the positives of his job, all the wonderful travel that we get to do in the summer is fantastic! Keep the posts from the trainer's wives coming! It helps me get through some really tough times! Maybe we should start a trainer's wife blog or support group! Thanks again for sharing! ~Heather McGowan

  3. I love this story. My husband works in the front office, and I love going to games but sometimes it can be a little too much.