Written by Teri O'Conner, Wife to Pat O'Conner

As we approach our 30th year in baseball and marriage, I am still asked the same questions…

Can you get tickets and autographs?
Politely “no”.

What do you buy someone like your husband as a gift?
 My response…the usual – underwear, T-shirts and socks.

What advice would you give to someone?

If you want to see your husband on your anniversary, do not get married during the season like we did. At that time he had a couple of days for travel and the wedding. Needless to say, no honeymoon as he said the rest of our lives would be one (and I believed him!!).
And most of all…maintain humility and take time to enjoy quality time together and where you are.

How have you maintained a baseball marriage?
God’s grace!

Do you travel with your husband?
No except for the Baseball Winter Meetings™.

What are the Baseball Winter Meetings™?
The Baseball Winter Meetings™ are an annual event held each December and in different locations. Baseball executives and representatives from Major League Baseball, Minor League Baseball, as well as international baseball convene in one setting to discuss the game, network and prepare for the upcoming season. This tradition dates back as far as 1876.

What do you do while you are there?
There are certain events I can attend or be involved in…Trade Show opening night, Awards Luncheon, hosting a wives’ luncheon, Baseball Chapel breakfast, Gala, banquet and of course shopping.

This year the wives started a new tradition of a service project. This culminated by our “many shopping” trips and decided we needed less of ourselves. For our first project, we chose the Ronald McDonald House in Orlando. We had a great time shopping for their “wish list items” and assembling snack bags for the families staying there. We caravanned there with our donations and items donated by Minor League Baseball Charities. It was such a pleasure doing this and a great bonding experience. Many commented it was the highlight of their week. We will definitely continue this tradition and we are already making plans for this year.


One Comment

  1. Wow.
    Thank you for posting this! I can't tell you how tired I am of people thinking that Minor league baseball players make bank. We are going through fertility troubles and have been for a couple of years now (baseball most definitely hasn't made that easier) and when I went to the office telling them we are out of money to keep trying, they looked at me like "yeah right". I had to inform them that in no way shape or form are we raking in the dough. We actually depend on my salary as well. The unfortunate part is that my salary means I have to stay home and never get to travel with him. I am a nurse, and although I would love to do travel nursing and be with him...I thought that a couple years back it would be a great idea to go back to school and get my Masters! So, not only are we really in the hole money-wise, but we never get to see each other! I graduate in December though, and assuming we will still be at this lifestyle, I"m hoping I will be able to start traveling with him again (I used to the first couple of years).
    I also love how you commented on the different levels of baseball. I probably get asked 50 times a month where my husband is this year, and if he's going to make it...if I knew that, would I be here???? I love how people just think you are going to know whether they are going to make it or not. Drives me bonkers!
    What I'm struggling with as of late, is the constant comments, "How long is he going to do this?" or "How long are you going to let him do this?" It's another question I loathe...as you said, people have to be reminded that this is their job. They are going to work. Not to mention, I knew what I signed up for when I marred my husband. How could I now say, "time to give it up honey" and let him resent me for the rest of his life for not being able to keep trying. No thanks. I want him to be happy because in turn, it will make us happy. Ok, I'm done ranting for now. Thanks again for your post--if you can't tell, it really spoke to me!